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...at first, there was a note of irony in my voice when I said: “SHE TAKES AFTER ME”. We also exchanged knowing glances when someone else said that the kid resembled me. But in the meantime, I am delighted to discover new similarities every week and I’m no longer conscious of the fact that a fairy godmother took a hand in all of this right at the beginning …
There is no greater happiness than waking up on a Sunday morning with a toe in your face or is there? Well two toes perhaps…
Sometimes I wake up in the mornings and look around carefully. Is this one of my dreams that feels so real but then turns out to be an illusion after all? No!!! There is this cute little baby with big wide eyes and a button nose lying right beside me and beaming at me. At moments like these I forget all the times I tried in vain to have a baby. All the questions I wrestled with before actually daring to try an egg donation are forgotten. “What will it feel like if you aren’t the genetic mother? Will you always be reminded of the egg donor when you look at the child? Will you be bothered by questions about the baby resembling you once it is born?”
Meanwhile our little bundle of joy has landed on her dad’s belly and is trying to crawl towards his face. Granted, at first there was a note of irony in my voice when I said: “SHE TAKES AFTER ME”. We also exchanged knowing glances when someone else said that the kid resembled me. But in the meantime, I am delighted to discover new similarities every week and I’m no longer conscious of the fact that a fairy took a hand in all of this right at the beginning.
I must admit that I do think of the woman who donated the eggs occasionally. It’s such a shame that we can’t say thank you to her or let her have a piece of our happiness. I’ve been registered as a bone marrow donor for many years now and have been hoping that I’ll be able to help somebody at some point. Surely, the egg donor must also want to find out if she really has been able to help someone despite all the anonymity.
I sometimes also recall how everything got started. How we sent an e-mail message to the AVA-Peter Clinic in St. Petersburg and received a prompt reply from Dr. Zaytseff. I remember how warm-hearted and personal she had been in that first telephone conversation and at the initial consultation in St. Petersburg as well. I returned from that meeting in St. Petersburg and was absolutely convinced: This is going to work out! And when the big day finally had come, there was plenty of time to ask all the questions we had and there was a doctor who was so competent, enthusiastic and warm-hearted that I got the feeling I was the one and only patient and my peace of mind was the all important thing. And later on, in the early days of my pregnancy when I turned to Dr. Zaytseff with my insecurity and fears sending her an e-mail like many women do, she was quick to answer and support me. This is a thing I never experienced at any of the German infertility clinics we had consulted in our many previous attempts. Once the pregnancy rnd_test was done, you were no longer on their radar.
We wish everyone who is still hesitating whether to try an egg donation or not – the courage to make a decision! And we wish everyone who has already made the decision all the very best for a successful pregnancy!
Meanwhile our little athlete is lying between us, her small fists in our hands. She’s making an all-out effort to tell us a story and it shows that producing sounds really is very difficult when you’re all of 4 months old. Her dad grabs the phone and dials the number of his dad with whom he wants to share his boundless joy at HIS BABY DAUGHTER’S first sounds…
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